Monday, March 05, 2007

taking 'ass hat' to a whole new level

internet, please meet stephen grant, fuck-head wife killer and ass hat, esq.

his wife, tara, has been 'missing' since february 9th.
on friday, police found a human female torso in the garage of their home near detroit, leading them to make stephen the number one suspect in his wife's disappearance.
because, you know, maybe it was somebody else's torso that just happened to be chillin' in the garage.

the garage of a home where two very young children live, for the record.

this morning, stephen confessed to strangling and dismembering his wife WHILE THEIR TWO YOUNG CHILDREN WERE HOME.

he offered no motive, but on friday--before parts of his wife's body were found in his garage--he gave an interview to a local detroit news station, in which he portrayed his wife as a bad mother and a bossy and insensitive wife.

the thing is, all of that may very well be true.
we can never really understand the dynamics of other people's relationships--hell, most of us struggle to figure out our own.
it seems that tara grant was the primary bread-winner for her family.
it seems that she had to travel a lot to do this.
it seems that stephen was the primary caretaker of their two children.

of course, none of his makes tara grant a bad person or a bad mother.
but it doesn't negate it either.
stephen grant may very well have been justifiably unhappy. he may have been worried about his children's lack of quality time with their mother,and he may have felt taken advantage of, and overworked, and under-appreciated.

but none of that matters, because the minute that he decided to kill her, every unhappiness of his own that he could possibly describe became irrelevent.
tara could have been the worst mother in the world.
she could have been known to frequently tell casual acquaintances that she hated her husband and children, but, once you kill her?
you're the bad guy.

end of story.

there is nothing she could be guilty of that could justify this behavior.


maybe i shouldn't be this infuriated, about the lives of some people that i don't even know.
but i think about this guy, and that other ass hat, scott peterson, and i think about how the leading cause of death for pregnant women is homocide (google it), and i just can't think of ANYTHING in ANYONE'S little insignificant life that could justify not just killing somebody, but killing your own wife--the mother of your own children.


if i ever get married, my vows are going to go like this:

i promise that i am walking into this union with my eyes open.
i promise that i know one, or both of us may one day change our minds, but today i promise two things: first, that i HOPE that we never will, and that even though i know there will be days when it is very, very hard, i will try to make this work everyday for the rest of my life, and second, that if one, or both of us DOES change our minds, i will do everything i can to make that transition as easy as possible for both of us because even if one day it turns out that you are not the one for me, i will always care about you and your happiness.
i promise that this promise will be multiplied by eleventy thousand if we ever have children, because it would be in the best interest of our children that they have happy and fulfilled parents.

more than anything, i promise that i love you enough that NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, I WILL NEVER KILL YOU AND CHOP YOU INTO TINY PIECES.


Blogger whimsicalnbrainpan said...

Ass hat is much to kind. He deserves to be called much worse. What he did was infuriating. I'll never understand people like him.

5:40 PM  
Blogger Everything Aimee said...

Seriously, how many women have husbands that do what she did? There would be a lot of dead men out there if we all decided it was too much and...yup, going to chop him up! What a friggen creep! He had those shifty eyes. During the interviews, when he said he had nothing to do with it, his eyes always darted to the side. Sure fire way to tell someone is lying. Why poker players wear sunglasses!

6:32 PM  
Blogger Missy said...

ok, i shouldn't be laughing by omg i love those vows. that is awesome.

as for the rest of it, it's just so so wrong and it's incredibly sad that shit like that happens so much. at all.

11:57 PM  
Anonymous PWT said...

Yeahm he's a peach, aint he?

4:51 PM  
Blogger Mary Flannery-Scientist said...

Hey--where'd you get a copy of my wedding vows?

5:11 PM  
Blogger CSL said...

The most horrifying thing, to me, is what this knowledge will do to the kids. Their legacy - a mothe rwho was killed dismembered while they were home by thier father. Where do they turn for sanity? And I like the vows - although we did not take them that way in my own wedding, it is certainly what we are trying to abide by now. (I'm thinking of the "best interest of our children that they have happy and fulfilled parents" bit, although I think we'll go with the anti-murder part, too.)

6:43 PM  
Blogger Mikala said...

First and foremost - it looks like what they say about peoples' eyes is true. They always say that people whose "eye whites" show completely around the iris are crazy - LOOK AT ASS HAT'S PICTURE!!!

Secondly, can I use your wedding vows someday (not like I'll ever get married)? I really like them!

3:09 PM  

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